Dating - Do Opposites Really Attract?

Alright enough politics. Let's get this place warmed up shall we?

There is an idea that we have when negotiating attractions to others that somehow there is that "special someone" that we're looking for out there somewhere. Whether we're looking for a wife or husband, a lover, a friend, or a friend with benefits, we are looking for those relationships that will be satisfying to us and feel right to us. Usually I think most of us tend to think that that "special someone" is someone who shares common interests, common life activities, common job goals, common sexual desires, common ethics and on and on. Animalistic attraction however, and yes we are most definitely animals, is far more complex. There are senses in our body including touch, taste, smell, and seeing which play a huge role in what revs our engines. These senses don't necessarily have anything to do with all those cerebral common interests I listed above. There may be a connection between the two but I don't think we will or even can understand it.

In fact, sometimes, we meet people who are TOTALLY different than we are who we can't keep our hands off of and with whom we share an incredibly hot and satisfying connection. People who work jobs for example that on any other day would make us gag! People who hang out with the STRANGEST crew is another example. Or perhaps we find ourselves attracted to members of a different race or perhaps someone who belongs to a religion with whom we strongly disagree. However, there's this smell she has that just makes me crazy and start gyrating. Or the way her incredibly hot stomach cascades down to the most luscious pair of petite yet curvaceous hips. Or there was this way he left his right finger to cascade over my forearm after we hugged. This raw and primal language we speak somehow makes all that other stuff fade away.

"Romeo and Juliet" for example. Look at that play. Romeo wasn't supposed to want Juliet. Everybody in that play would have been a lot happier (and dumber) if Romeo had kept his junk in his tights and had a homosexual fling with Mercutio or something. Now you could argue that Romeo and Juliet wanted to hook up because it was so forbidden. Forbidden acts can indeed be extremely hot but I think that Shakespeare was tapping into something deeper than that.

To be attracted to only people who are just like you or happen to be a member or your "club" is BORING. We look outside of our "circles" because we want to grow. We don't just yearn for physical contact, approval, pleasure, babies, connection, trust, love, and the like. Yes we want those things but what we're doing in the end is so much bigger. We're yearning to grow. We want to change and grow and become the best people we can and one of the biggest, perhaps THE biggest things we do to be those best people is to love and connect with our fellow humans. It's why we're here. To connect with other humans both sexually and otherwise and learn and grow with and through them is one of the most elemental desires that people have. Now there are bad desires that humans have like the one to go to war but the desire to connect in that way is a GOOD one. It's not just our instinct to create life that drives this either. It's often our desire to LIVE life too. That can come from what we might label a selfish place or it can come from a very giving one. Our decisions about who we feel deserves to experience this connection and growth with us can be fantastically complex.

So, in the end, we will of course continue applying whatever criteria serves us in choosing partners, friends, and lovers but we also need to realize that our bodies and our instincts are very, very smart. Our bodies speak a language that we must, to some extent, surrender ourselves to.

And that ladies and gentlemen is HOT.

So are there any hot smelling Bush supporting, corporate attorneys who feel like going on a date?

-DJ Freak